How To Use Rejection To Fuel Success… by Marion M. Chamberlain
I don't think that there is one person out there who hasn't encountered rejection in one form or the other in his/her life. Many of us have heard about Colonel Sanders, who upon retirement, decided to take his chicken recipe on the road and convince others that he had the best recipe out there. How many times do you think he encountered rejection? Or how about being rejected by someone you had a crush on in high school,sneaking back into the office when their boss isn't working,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Chocolate Boots? Did you decide to never fall in love again? No, you moved one… In my experience,1875 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Short Black Boots,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Grey Boots, people quite often develop the "I'll show you" attitude after being rejected. In both the business and personal world, what sets apart successful people is how they've taken the lessons learned from rejection and applied them into action.
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So, let's first look at some common characteristics of successful people before we look at how to use rejection to fuel your own success,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Sand Boots. People who are able to turn around rejection are:
* Resilient and bounce back quickly
* Persistent and don't give up
* Creative and think about how to turn around the situation
* Self-confident and don't take rejection personal
* Responsible and realize that the choice is always theirs
Now, let's look at three simple steps to help you fuel your own success and turn around your response to rejection:
1. Decide not to take the situation personal.
* Immediately detach yourself from any feelings of failure or hurt.
* Look at the situation as a positive learning lesson and stay away from complaining to others who can't really help you.
2. Take full responsibility for your success,the most debated idea by the self help books.
* Know that:
* The person rejecting you is not responsible for your success.
* You control your own destiny.
* Turning the situation around is up to you.
3,5838 Ugg Bailey Button Bomber Jacket Chestnut Boots. Write out your action plan to turn around the situation.
* Write down what you could have done differently if you were in the situation again,UGG 1875.
* Then determine what your ideal outcome is.
* Prepare an outline of all possible actions to achieve such.
* Commit to one action, take time to visualize how you'll handle the situation and then immediately put into action.
* Go back to your list until you achieve success. Repetition and consistency is key to learning.
• Don't forget – successful people don't give up!
So often people cave in to fear and let rejection hold them back. However, I'm certain that if you're reading this newsletter, you're not like that. You're one of those who is risk-averse will "go out there and show them",3166 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Tall Sand Boots!
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A part of this mechanism is that people see others happy and wonder why they themselves are not and consequently that gives rise to unpleasant feelings and brings up a lot of unresolved issues. You may want to think about this in terms of duality, the old yin and yang in motion. Seemingly good creates its seemingly opposite bad.
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If you cannot get them to commit, ring a help line where they can advise you further.
The worst thing you can do is to get them to talk about their feelings,3166 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Tall Black Boots. They are overwhelmed with feelings at this point and you don't want to go in there and make it worse. Rather you want to get them back into their heads with some semblance of a plan albeit even if is just a small commitment to see someone on a professional basis. The getting into feelings part comes later once they are stabilized and should only be delved into by a professional,UGG 1875, not a lay person without training in such matters.
Also be careful that when a person is in this mode they can appear to quite ok in the next few days almost cheery in fact and then a week or so later you hear they killed themselves. That is usually because they have made their minds up to kill themselves and to them it feels like a relief, as if a huge weight has been lifted off their shoulders,Often one isolated sign isn't enough of a hint for you to recognize the message Spirit is conveying. My native spiritual teachers recommend that you keep track of the various omens and signs that life throws your way. Write down all repeating patterns and. Again key here is checking in and going through the process I listed above.
If per chance they still commit suicide then you need to understand that they were always going to do that and there isn't a thing you could have done to prevent it.
There is always a distinction and discernment to be made in these situations that pertain to enlightenment. Suicidal ideation along with depression appears for many on the pathless path. Not all but many. That is part of a normal process of discovering oneself which is often a painful thing. However if a person gets to the point where they really intend to commit suicide then the act of suicide is not going to get them enlightened but living for a bit longer and working through that pain to see that pain cannot exist may.
This time of year is a good time to be aware of such things as it is a real danger period, but it extends beyond just a few months of the year. It serves one well to be aware of these matters year round.
Christmas is always a time that brings to a head the difference between the have nots and haves. Nowhere is this more clearly seen than in counselling circles, where the period around Christmas and just after is the busiest time of year and the intake of new clients rises dramatically. The holiday period additionally always sees a rise in the number of suicides and suicide attempts.
A part of this mechanism is that people see others happy and wonder why they themselves are not and consequently that gives rise to unpleasant feelings and brings up a lot of unresolved issues. You may want to think about this in terms of duality, the old yin and yang in motion. Seemingly good creates its seemingly opposite bad.
If a friend or acquaintance is distressed to the point of thinking about committing suicide this is what you can do. You cannot be half hearted about it,5838 Ugg Bailey Button Bomber Jacket Grey Boots, these are painful things to hear if someone close to you is thinking of suicide,and family needs and obligations, but put your pain aside and focus on the task at hand. In other words take a big gulp and plunge on in. Here is what you can do:
1. Ask them straight out are you thinking about committing suicide.
2,1875 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Short Sand Boots. If the answer is yes, then ask if they have a plan. Specifically ask them when they plan to do it and how.
3. If they have a plan,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Navy Boots, find out if they have the means. For example, someone may say I am going to shoot my head off,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Sand Boots, then find out if they have a gun or intend to get one.
If a person has all those things then that's a very serious suicide risk. The best thing you can do is to negotiate a contract where you get the person to commit to seeing someone before they commit suicide,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Grey Boots. If you can get them to commit it is extremely unlikely they will commit suicide until they see that person (a professional counsellor) and hopefully that counsellor can guide them through that period.
If you cannot get them to commit, ring a help line where they can advise you further.
The worst thing you can do is to get them to talk about their feelings,3166 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Tall Black Boots. They are overwhelmed with feelings at this point and you don't want to go in there and make it worse. Rather you want to get them back into their heads with some semblance of a plan albeit even if is just a small commitment to see someone on a professional basis. The getting into feelings part comes later once they are stabilized and should only be delved into by a professional,UGG 1875, not a lay person without training in such matters.
Also be careful that when a person is in this mode they can appear to quite ok in the next few days almost cheery in fact and then a week or so later you hear they killed themselves. That is usually because they have made their minds up to kill themselves and to them it feels like a relief, as if a huge weight has been lifted off their shoulders,Often one isolated sign isn't enough of a hint for you to recognize the message Spirit is conveying. My native spiritual teachers recommend that you keep track of the various omens and signs that life throws your way. Write down all repeating patterns and. Again key here is checking in and going through the process I listed above.
If per chance they still commit suicide then you need to understand that they were always going to do that and there isn't a thing you could have done to prevent it.
There is always a distinction and discernment to be made in these situations that pertain to enlightenment. Suicidal ideation along with depression appears for many on the pathless path. Not all but many. That is part of a normal process of discovering oneself which is often a painful thing. However if a person gets to the point where they really intend to commit suicide then the act of suicide is not going to get them enlightened but living for a bit longer and working through that pain to see that pain cannot exist may.
This time of year is a good time to be aware of such things as it is a real danger period, but it extends beyond just a few months of the year. It serves one well to be aware of these matters year round.
Monday, December 10, 2012
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It is critical to discover how you truly see yourself, deep down inside,I had out-of-town company. The picture you see when you are being truly honest with yourself is who you really are.
For example, you might tell everyone that you are a great salesperson, and that your results this month are astounding. You may have even written positive statements or affirmations that say just that. You might read them every morning and every evening.
So, deep down inside, do you see a salesperson that is already astounding to the world? If not, you are not there. Not yet anyway.
It is so important to understand that who you believe you are, down deep inside, is actually who you are. The picture you carry of yourself will most certainly be evidenced in your thoughts, in your words, and, in your actions because it is a core belief. It is a belief that you hold in your heart, and it didn't happen overnight.
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Very few people realize that the clear picture that they carry of themselves in their own mind is a real and true image of who they really are. I'm not talking about what you say to other people when you tell them how great things are going,Ugg Sheepskin Cuff. I'm not talking about making a casual positive statement about yourself and your life.
I'm talking about the true picture that you have of yourself.
You may have positive affirmations that you repeat to yourself on a regular basis. Those may indeed be a very helpful method in effecting change in your life. But,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Sand Boots, simply writing down your desires, vision and goals and reviewing them or repeating them will not automatically make it happen.
It is critical to discover how you truly see yourself, deep down inside,I had out-of-town company. The picture you see when you are being truly honest with yourself is who you really are.
For example, you might tell everyone that you are a great salesperson, and that your results this month are astounding. You may have even written positive statements or affirmations that say just that. You might read them every morning and every evening.
So, deep down inside, do you see a salesperson that is already astounding to the world? If not, you are not there. Not yet anyway.
It is so important to understand that who you believe you are, down deep inside, is actually who you are. The picture you carry of yourself will most certainly be evidenced in your thoughts, in your words, and, in your actions because it is a core belief. It is a belief that you hold in your heart, and it didn't happen overnight.
That does not mean that things can't change in your life; they absolutely can! But, this core belief has emotion and experience tied to it, and that cannot be changed by simply saying the opposite,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Black Boots.
Who we really believe that we are deep down inside is who we are today. And that's why the picture you carry of yourself is so critical! If you are going to see real change,5838 Ugg Bailey Button Bomber Jacket Chestnut Boots, then you need to change how you see yourself. This is the vital first step.
Whether you call it affirmations, or positive statements, or winning declarations, or whatever, there are some very helpful methods that you can use. But, the point is, if you want to see your life change, then the picture of you has to change. There is no other way around it. You not only have to tell yourself who you desire to be, but you have to see it and feel it.
Let me explain.
When you get honest and look at how you truly see yourself, right now, it will evoke certain emotions. Those emotions are what gives that picture life.
So, along with the new picture of yourself that you desire, be sure to add some vibrant details to the picture that will evoke emotion. An accomplished violinist once told me the picture that she used. It went something like this:
"A deep red-brown finish on a Guarnari violin, fitted with an ebony fingerboard and rosewood fittings and a mach-one maple shoulder rest. The name says prosperity, which makes me feel elated. The color says romantic and intense, and makes me feel like I am already playing a passionate piece. The fittings are custom, and it evokes pride and glee because I can have exactly what I want without reservation. The shoulder rest reminds me how comfortable it will be to play and evokes peacefulness."
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And the way that you add emotion to the picture is by asking yourself some questions. "How are you going to feel being a great salesperson, knowing that your results this month are astounding?" "what type of attitude will you have as you sit at your desk." "How will you sound on the phone?" "Will you have a big smile on your face?" "Will it make you feel more confident,box or file that contains lists?" "How is it really going to feel?"
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1. Change the context - One of the most successful methods for moving out of anger and back to happiness again is to change the context of the situation. Change the meaning that you have given this situation that makes you angry.
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You will notice, with practice, you can very,UGG 1875, very quickly get yourself right out of the emotional fury that occurs from the one perspective' you are conditioned to have.
2. Recognize The Drunk Monkey and its antics. Anger is just your body's response to potential danger. Yet, think about how often you get angry, frustrated, upset, and hostile in situations that are not actually dangerous.
We have, in our society, created a very effective survival strategy. If you live in a first world country, the odds of you being in serious danger are very, very small. Yet, we still have this animal part of our brain, which I like to call The Drunk Monkey, which is looking out for danger and avoiding it.
When you get angry,1875 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Short Sand Boots, consider the idea that you are The Drunk Monkey's puppet. See the strings as anger, frustration,Base Articles, anxiety, fear or doubt. Visualize The Drunk Monkey pulling the strings to steer you away from danger. Notice that it does this without your permission. Realize that The Drunk Monkey is a bit dim witted and can't tell the difference between real danger and imaginary danger. Once you begin to see that happening and observe it, suddenly it doesn't have a grip on you any longer and you can move right out of the anger back into happiness, by conscious choice.
3. Choose gratitude. Happy people have developed habits, rituals and disciplines that keep them happy. One of those disciplines is asking effective questions,1875 Ugg Sheepskin Cuff Short Black Boots.
Happy people have the discipline to be in a hostile, angry situation and suddenly ask themselves a question such as "Why is this good?" "What am I learning from this?" "How will I be a better person because of this?" "How will this situation benefit me?"
By moving from a position of "I'm powerless and I'm going to get hurt or am in danger," the happy person shifts the context through questioning, back to a place where they feel gratitude. "How is this going to benefit me?" By taking on these techniques, you will find that you can very quickly move yourself from anger back to happiness again.
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